Desire to Fire Method Application

For women who are ready to stop dreading sex and start looking forward to it again

This application takes approx 10 mins

What made you decide now's the time to stop researching and start DOING something about your intimacy struggles? *

Paint me a picture of what results and success would look like to you: In 6 months how do you want your relationship and love life to feel? What do you finally want to be able to do, feel, and experience together in your relationship that feels impossible right now? *

How is this currently affecting your relationship day-to-day? Be specific: How often do you avoid affection or make excuses? What happens when your partner tries to initiate? How is this struggle impacting them? *

How long have you been dealing with this, and what worries you most about where you'll be if nothing changes in the next year? What would staying stuck cost you emotionally, mentally, and in your relationship? *

Complete this sentence: "I can't keep living like this because..." *

What have you already tried to fix this? Be specific: therapy (individual/couples), books, apps, toys, more communication, talking to your gyno, supplements, etc. For each thing you've tried, briefly explain why it didn't work or what was missing. *

Which statement best describes where you're at right now? *

I've been avoiding dealing with this but I’m finally ready to face it

I've been trying to fix this for a while but keep hitting the same roadblocks

I know things need to change but I don’t know how to fix this

I'm scared nothing will work but I’m more scared of staying stuck or things getting worse

Sexual response is controlled by your nervous system, brain, and hormones: all physical processes. If you had a physical health issue you couldn't solve, you'd see a doctor. Given that this is a physical process like any other, what’s kept you from working with a sexual health expert until now? *

This program requires approximately 15 mins daily. Can you realistically commit to this time for yourself over the next 4-6 months? *

Yes, absolutely. I can and want to prioritize this

Yes, but I'll need some accountability to actually make that happen

Maybe, my schedule is pretty packed

No, I don't have that kind of time right now

If this program asked your partner to participate in exercises and conversations, how do you think they'd respond? *

Eager to be involved and want to help

Willing if they understood why it's important

Resistant but might do it for me

Refuse because they think this is my problem to fix

What gives you confidence your relationship can handle the honest conversations and strategy implementation this work requires? What makes you believe your partner wants this to improve as much as you do? *

Describe the version of yourself you miss most: The woman you were before this became a problem. What specific qualities, feelings, or behaviors do you want to get back? How did you show up differently in your relationship back then? *

This issue affects more than just your sex life. If you woke up tomorrow and this were completely solved, what would that change about how you feel about yourself, your confidence, your energy, how you show up in all areas of your life? *

This program requires consistent practice and showing up for yourself even when it feels uncomfortable. What makes you confident you'll follow through this time when other attempts haven't worked? What’s different about your mindset now? *

You're applying to be one of only 5 women accepted into the next cohort, with applications closing soon and we typically receive 50+ applications. What would being accepted mean for you personally and for your relationship? *

If we offered you early access to start before doors officially open, how ready are you to begin this transformation? *

I'd start immediately. I'm ready now

I'd prefer to wait for the official start date

I'm not sure I'm ready yet

Is there anything about your current circumstances that might interfere with your ability to fully participate in this program? *

Any questions about the DTF Method or working with Erinn that would help you feel more confident about this investment? *